One of the biggest sources of stress in people’s lives is other people. Counselors and psychologists say that when people come to them to talk about their problems, they often talk about the other people in their lives who are causing them grief.

One of the best ways to deal with other people can be found in a book called “Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion” by George Thompson, a United States police officer.

I’ve read many books on people skills and “Verbal Judo” has changed the most of what I actually do in real life.

Verbal Judo is…


So often we wait for a lightning bolt of inspiration to get us going. But how often does that really come? Sometimes we have “aha” moments that set us off down a path of creativity, whether it is working out, or writing a book, or starting a business.

But more often we can find ourselves stagnant, wanting to get more out of life but not knowing how to find the energy to do it. …


Too often we are rushed by our environment. Dishes to wash, deadlines to meet, dollars to make. We can find ourselves responding to things rather than being in control of our situation.

Wouldn’t you like to be able to rise above this leash around your neck? What if it took you only one second to do?

Try this. The next time you’re rushing around with too many things to do and too little time, pause for one second. For example, if you’re washing the dishes and feeling crunched for time, before you reach for that glass to put it in…


The secret of happiness is helping others. Author Bill Shore says that people are often unhappy with their job and are looking for something more. They want to do “something that counts”.

Philanthropy is one of the biggest factors in long-term life satisfaction. Other things we can do that make us feel good often just bring us short-term satisfaction.

I’d always known that to help others is a good thing, but the person who really hit it home for me was Dr. …


The Convenient Workout is a simple full body workout routine. It is incredibly easy to fit into your day and works all the major muscles in your body. It might just be the easiest way to build muscle in the world.

Millions of people dream of becoming more muscular. This is an amazing dream to have. Being muscular helps you in so many ways. I highly encourage you to keep chasing that dream. You will love it when you get there.

I’m excited to tell you about this workout. It has put more muscle on me in a ridiculously simple…


What is a happiness hangover?

Psychologists say it is the sad or “down” time you experience after an exciting event is over, but without the alcohol. This can happen after Christmas, the birth of your child, or a fun weekend, for example.

Eckhart Tolle in his book, “The Power of Now”, describes this process as happening not just around larger events, but also continually throughout our day in smaller amounts.

Sometimes you might find yourself just driving down the road, not particularly happy, not particularly sad or depressed or some other negative state. You are in a neutral emotional state.


Have you ever wondered what it would be like to follow your dreams and do something totally out of your usual realm of possibilities? How would it feel? What would people think of you for doing it?

When I was 19 years old, I got that chance.

I was sitting in my university residence room, looking through some of my belongings in my desk drawer, and I started reading an article my mum had clipped out of the newspaper a year earlier.

My parents often gave me interesting articles they found in their local paper. This particular article I remember…


Have you ever been asked to do something you didn’t want to do? I have.

When I was 22, my health was taken from me. My body started to experience a lot of pain. I developed schizophrenia. It is said that about 75% of people with schizophrenia hallucinate. However, I never did.

I had muddled through my university years, not feeling the best, but I could still do a lot of things. I was getting mostly A grades in my engineering degree, I was on the university rowing team, and I had even cycled across Canada.

But when the disease…


Have you ever wondered what you would do in a horrible situation like a tsunami, or if you lost your legs, or were trapped in rubble after an earthquake? How would you react? Do you wonder whether you would be strong enough to handle it?

Photo by John W. Gardner Photography

I was faced with a horrible situation. I was blindsided. The pain and terror of what I was going through made me feel like I was being chased by a heat-seeking tornado. A relentless onslaught of death.

This insidious beast chasing me was mental illness. A nice mix of schizophrenia, depression and anxiety.

I grew…

Matthew Dickson

I am an advocate for people with mental illness in developing countries at www.MindAid.ca. I have bicycled across Canada, am an avid reader and love dancing!

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